Why men have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be filled with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age difference, spiritual upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married date.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are people seeking affairs. I suppose generally though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the wish on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your family or anyone else? You will need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, gigantic really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your funds are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the man is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us males of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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